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How do you stop missing someone?
Dating / 3:49 AM - Monday January 26, 2009

How do you stop missing someone?

What's the best way to stop missing someone who you care about?

- Asked by sunset77, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Hello Heather,
I'm sure you've heard this before, but I honestly believe that time heals. Could it be that you just need to allow yourself to grieve the lost relationship instead of trying to forget it?
Perhaps one must take a good amount of time to allow the passing of a lost relationship, to heal a broken heart, if that is what a person happens to be dealing with, a period of "emotional grieving", sort to speak. It's a very painful process one must endure in order for the healing to pass, and the person can eventually move in a positive direction when the suffering has finally ended.

Maybe remove any item that reminds you of that person, and allow yourself a bit of time to slowly heal. Try not to dwell with thoughts for too long and occupy yourself with other areas of interest to help pass the time. Try not to wallow in self pity, but rather learn from what went wrong in the relationship.


- Response by richard77, A Jock, Male, Who Cares?, Self-Employed

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Logic has it that if you miss someone, you are not missing that person but the memories that go with that person. We're all unique and it hurts like hell having to think that we won't find someone to replace that person. It's not true. We find others who fulfill those missing moments. Only if you allow it. That person who is absent from your life now, is gone for a reason. I wouldn't try to figure out why, but move into a different mindset where you live on.

- Response by zerotohero2, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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Only time will help you reach this goal. There is a normal process of grieving you must complete in order to successfully move on with your life and stop feeling that pain daily. Often we set ourselves back in that healing process by attempting to check up on that person or keeping memorabilia of our relationship with them in sight.

Purge your surroundings. Put those old pictures away, develop a new hobby or circle of friends that you did not share and throw yourself into a self-improvement routine. The better you feel about yourself, the less likely you are to relapse. It's impossible to not think of the love you shared with someone but in time, it will occur on a much less frequent basis. I wish I had the cure to this myself but moving forward, even if it is one tiny little step at a time will get you to a point where the distance behind you is so great, it's nearly a blur before you know it.

- Response by meandmrjones, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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The best way to stop missing someone is, when you find yourself thinking about that person find something that will take your mnind off that person. Spend your time enjoying yourself and getting to know you better. Soon after, eventually the love you have for that person will fade. Just find something else to do.

- Response by earthquake30, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55

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REPLACE them with someone NEW and better....

- Response by redmark40, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Who Cares?

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You never forgt inportant people in your life. They will always be a part of you no matter what. So in some ways we just miss them being a part of our every day life.

- Response by 78cowgirl, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Time is of course the most important healer, but why would you want to forget someone who is special to you, more the point is learning to live without that person around you, you will always miss them, but coping with the feeling is something that comes with the passage of time.

- Response by puniksem, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, London, Consulting

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When you care for someone so much its hard to stop missing them. We have to keep ourselves very busy not to think of them.

- Response by phatmama2003, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Boston, Who Cares?

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It isn't easy, but you just move on and mourn a while first. Then you will just have to make up your mind to get involved with activities you love and try new ones, to move on with your life. It is a death of a relationship, and treat it like any death. Allow yourself a period of mourning, then move on. Good luck.

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 66 or older, Philadelphia, Retired

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Keep yourself busy, do things that you enjoy doing with friends..or alone. One day you will just realize that you didnt think about this person today. Time is the only thing. And really, you never will forget completely. good luck

- Response by dreemer43081, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Columbus

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Take ane evening class, join the gym, get out and be around people. Don't sit at home and ponder the what if's - Even if you go out for a walk alone. Just don't sit around and THINK!
A lot depends on the reason your missing this someone - did they move away, pass way or was it a relationship gone bad.


- Response by sassysue123, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Managerial

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