why does a guy text/talk for hours then drop off the face of the earth?
I had a class with this really great looking guy. I was majorly in love with my b/f at the time and so every advance the guy made (including moving his seat next to mine, i just kind of ignored). After the class was over i kept thinking about the guy and really just wanted to get to know him better so i found out his name from the teacher and then sent him an email.
he was very happy and that night, we proceeded to text for 3 hours back and forth. we made plans to meet up in the library at class the next day.
so at the library, we talked for 3 hours in person with no awkwardness at all. it was very very pleasant. I asked him if he wanted me to call him later and he said yea just give me a call. (I didn't call but i fell asleep so but i let him know and the next day texted him and asked him if he wanted to go out friday.) i did this on wed.
well i phrased it are you working friday, he said no why? I said do you want to go out and he said that his rehearsal didn't get out till 12 ( which I knew about already). so I sent him another message that said thats fine if you want to you can meet us there, but it wont be free.
so anyways...I have gotten nothing since then. on thursday night I actually went out with some g/f's totally unplanned and he had told me it was his b-day on thurs. in the library. so during the day i said happy b-day! then later at night i told him i would be d-town at this bar if he wanted to meet up (again all through text) so after still hearing nothing from him, i sent him another text that said am i gonna see the b-day boy tonight? and still NO ANSWER??!?!?!?!
so, today I was just like well maybe he was really busy and tired it was his b-day...so i sent him a text today simply asking, what are you doing thursday about an hour ago and still no response. he also didn't approve my friend request on f-book he denied it....
can someone tell me WTF is going on?? I mean he was into me then all of a sudden nothing. he does have a g/f but i have a b/f and i am just looking for friendship. I am just trying to figure out wtf I did wrong...lol any help would be great.
Update: January 26, 2009.
Oh hey one more thing to everyone who read my original post,
when i first met him/ saw him i was single, my guy and i were having problems. We are together now. I just haven't had a guy friend in such a long time that now that i met someone that I can actually talk to about my man/get perspective/talk about music etc...its is fantastic!! and to all of you who think this is behind my man's back, it isn't I told my b/f about this guy and even invited him out with us to his next concert. If anything did develop past friendship, I would break up with my guy but that is not likely as I could see myself marrying the man I am with now. I think when your with someone long term, a little flirtation now and then is good because it confirms what you already have. Space is good in a relationship...so having a guy friend who has a g/f is a good thing. it means hands off and vice versa. Anyways...guys and girls can be just friends =]
Update: January 26, 2009.
he messaged me back last night and he wants to get together. He said he had a crazy b-day and he had no idea what happened to his phone. He replaced it yesterday and when i texted him , just a hey whats up, what are you doing thursday, he responded with who is this i had to replace my phone no #'s, =[ . I didn't get the text right away so then he texted back my name..and I was like yes...and he goes why didn't you tell me it was you what are you doing tonight?? lol..so i guess it pays to be patient...and he was thinking of me haha...cuz i didn't tell him who i was and he just picked a name =]
anyways...thanks to all who replied!!
- Asked by asn0517
, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Atlanta, Retail