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Please help me understand...what are the characteristics of a "player"?
Dating / 11:30 AM - Saturday January 24, 2009

Please help me understand...what are the characteristics of a "player"?

Is this a tag reserved just for a male or can a female be considered a player too?

- Asked by indiansummer, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Technical

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It usually describes a male. Basically, someone not ready to settle down, that has many women, and/or many opportunities for women, and is not ready to change for just one. Most players are attractive, charming, or have the gift of gab. They know how to "play the game." And the rules are their own.

- Response by travelchic, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Self-Employed

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We have wannabe pickup artists, and then we have GENUINE players.
If you read (God forbid) the e-newsletters from the PUA websites, they are filled with stories about successful pickups and "lay reports".
These guys are giving the ladies what they actually need, vs what they *say* they want: immediate gratification, and a clean break. A genuine player leaves a woman (that's the operative deal) in better shape than he finds her.
There's no implied long-term anything to it, but it feels real good while it lasts.

- Response by creepyolderguy, A Player, Male, 56-65, Medical / Dental

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