Oce you've been hurt badly, your eyes will always be open much wider then ever before. Being hurt makes you wiser and not as tolerant of bullshit from the opposite sex as much. It did me anyway. I'm not sure if you call it "drawing the line" so much as you just have your deal-breakers now. I was hurt badly a long time ago. My girlfriend at the time got pregnant by the guy and tried to pass the kid off as mine. I got suspicious, especially after her ex had suddenly popped back into her life after a long time. After the baby was born, I demanded a DNA test. It came out negative. I wasn't the dad. She had cheated on me with her ex and had his baby. I sat there crying like a little girl with that test in my hand. I couldn't believe she had done that to me. Ever since, my trust with women has only gone so far. I just have my deal-breakers now, one being that I refuse to date women who have a lot of male friends or who need to keep their ex around as a so-called "friend." My ex did both, and like a dumbass, I kept taking her word for it when she would tell me that her ex was just a "friend" and nothing more. But I was a lot younger and naive then, so I guess i could use that as an excuse. I'm not controlling and would never tell a woman who she can and can't be friends with, but what I can control is myself, and if a woman needs her ex around, I move on. We can be friends too, but I won't actually date her seriously. I just don't need the drama. I can't take a woman seriously who can't let go. I know that not every woman would cheat on me with her ex or one of her male friends, but I just don't take the chance. Unless they have kids, I have never understood why women need to keep in touch with an ex anyway. Never have understood that one. I think what it boils down to is that you just become wiser once you've been hurt. There are things that you just won't tolerate and that are automatic deal-breakers. We all have them no matter how trusting we are. I don't believe anyone who says they don't have at least one deal-breaker. I think once we've been hurt, we see signs earlier than before and know how to deal with them better.
- Response by newdad
, A Jock, Male, 36-45, Las Vegas, Transportation