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My partner is always threatening to break up our relationship.
Dating / 6:50 AM - Thursday January 08, 2009

My partner is always threatening to break up our relationship.

My partner is always threatening to break up our relationship.

Her philosophy is "Treat them mean to keep them keen". She doesn't just make these threats if we are having an argument, she also does it when things are just normal. She will say things like "nothing lasts for ever" and "if you're not careful I'm going to put you back on the shelf".

I've asked her, nicely, to stop doing this (unless she really means it), but it just doesn't stop...

And if we have an argument, she'll then say stuff like "there's a man in work who really fancies me and he's just waiting for you to mess up"

I'm kind of fed up with this, but I don't know what to do. Any helpful suggestions please!?

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 46-55, Birmingham, Technical

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One of these times, tell her to not let the door hit her in the ass on the way out...or pack your things and go. Call her bluff.

- Response by barbb, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession

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Sorry to hear about it but I think you shouldn't take her abuse. She obviously doesn't love you. next time she threatens, tell her to pack and go. and go watch TV, be cool. you'll see how she changes and even she stops doing it, she'll find another excuse to threaten you. You can do better...

- Response by chichek, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Moscow, Other Profession

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Sounds like she's really to immature for a grown up relationship.

- Response by blueyedame, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Indianapolis, Who Cares?

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So dump her then!

Preferably by letting her catch you in bed with her sister and her best friend at the same time.

Who has time for trifling bitches like this?

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Boston, Science / Engineering

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I wouldn't put up with that. I would start doing it back so that she knows how it feels. Talk to her again and let her know you're putting your foot down on this one and if she's going to leave to just do it already and if she's not then to stop with the threats because they are putting a wedge between your relationship. Be nice to her 4 no reason at all. Ask yourself if she doesn't stop, can u live this way for the rest of your life?

- Response by unbrokenfrog, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Home Maker

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You asked her 'nicely'?

You are 'kind of fed up'?

You are an abused man my friend and you need to change. Try a book like "No more Mr Nice Guy" to get you on the (long)road to recovery, else you will still be in an unhappy position (perhaps with another woman) in 10 years time.

And yes, change is long, challenging and uncomfortable, but the destination makes it worthwhile.

- Response by kitchencabinet, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Johannesburg, Internet / New Media

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There's no reason to justify her behavior any further by staying with her.

Right now, SHE WEARS THE PANTS and YOU WEAR THE SKIRT. Next time she says one of those catch phrases, call her bluff. WALK. And don't look back.

- Response by king313, A Rebel, Male, 29-35, Detroit, Technical

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And you're still with her?

I will never understand women who do this sort of thing.

Can you picture yourself spending any length of time with her, let alone your life?

No. Please leave her. (And be sarcastic about it - then tell us all the juicy details)

Good luck :-)

- Response by jenjenmcmorris, A Married Girl, Female, 26-28, Home Maker

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I was going through the same thing so I said do it all ready stop saying shit go through with it. I could find a better relationship. The I kicked her to the curb.

- Response by wyatt1515, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 36-45

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