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Online dating tips..
Dating / 5:21 PM - Monday January 05, 2009

Online dating tips..

OK, so apparently I am not the only master of online dating out there. I got a bunch of responses from others who have found amazing partners through this venue.

As Stoney recommended in response to my post below, here are some of the best tidbits of wisdom I have gleaned in my vast and highly successful online dating experience.

To those other experts out there- please add some more or feel free to edit mine!

1- Keep your expectations low!
Go into each new meeting expecting nothing more than to meet and get to know a new person. Do not expect to find the love of your life. Hopefully, you will one day, but most likely it will take meeting a bunch of mismatches first. Look at each date as an opportunity to get out and have a good time, not to grill the person and find out if they are the love of your life. If they are, you will figure it out eventually.

2- Keep your options OPEN and the commitment level LOW until you have dated someone a while- at LEAST a month, if not more. Expect the other person to do the same. Never ever expect the other person to be dating you exclusively until you have had an open discussion about it.

3- Be honest- of course. Put up a lot of pictures that are from within the last year. Include full body shots so that others know your body type. Who wants to go out with someone that is not attracted to them? No one does.

Those are the first things I can think of. Any other ideas?

- Asked by zahararica, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, New York, Who Cares?

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Always be honest.. too many times they tyell little lies thinking they won't matter yes it does matter. and don't be judgemental until you get to know them.

- Response by pepperman46, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55

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If you seriously think he is PERFECT & too good to be true, keep looking, he probably is. We all have a bit of asshole, trick is to find someone whos a degree of asshole you can tolerate, and vice versa!

- Response by blueyedame, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Indianapolis, Who Cares?

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Don't wait too long to meet! I talked to a guy for about 3 weeks on AIM and when we met, I figured we would really hit it off. Turns out he was a little socially awkward, but I went out with him for about 3 weeks thinking he was just nervous. I put too much effort into trying to hit it off in real life because we hit it off online.

- Response by blondeeebuckeye, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25, Managerial

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And all the 'security' rules, too -- don't tell them your complete real name or where you live or work or other personal information. The person you are meeting MAY be a serial killer.

I met my man of my dreams on EHarmony. He told me all this information about himself during our first phone conversation. While I was impressed with his honesty, I did have a little talk with him about being so open when he didn't know if I was a bunny boiler or not.

- Response by utahmom, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Salt Lake City, Managerial

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Meet his family & friends. Look up where he lives, before you go "there"...

- Response by blueyedame, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Indianapolis, Who Cares?

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always MEET in a public place for your first meeting. do not go to their house or have them come to your house to get to that first date. If you are traveling to another town, book a hotel...do not plan to stay with them. Do not tell them your address or the hotel you are staying at until after you have met them and "felt them out. Esentially have yourself a protected place and escape plan...in case they turn out to be creepy.

- Response by sirkermittsg, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Dallas, Transportation

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