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At the end of a first date, what is the proper protocol for a good night kiss?
Dating / 6:22 PM - Thursday December 04, 2008

At the end of a first date, what is the proper protocol for a good night kiss?

I generally ask the woman if I can give her a kiss, they usually, ok, they always say YES! lol. A woman I know told me you should never ask, she said women don't like that, you should just kiss her. So what is the proper way to handle this situation?

- Asked by mrvincent45, A Creative, Male, 36-45, Philadelphia, Financial / Banking

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Reminds me of that song....by Exile...I wanna kiss you all over...and over again.....when the night closes in....need you....

No one has ever asked me if they could kiss me...I usually kiss them first lol! I think I would like for them to say..."I want to kiss you" and I say..."I want you to kiss me...so do it...lips smacking!"

- Response by divatoonami, A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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My current bf asked me, somewhat nervously, and I thought that was adorable. And I did say yes. I don't see how that would be thought of as wrong, unless the person who said it to you likes the caveman approach.

- Response by aoluserchick, A Career Woman, Female, 36-45, Consulting

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i think i would rather a nice hug and kiss on the lips. nothing too deep---see how that goes. if she pulls ya in and tries for more then you did something right and she is interested.

- Response by nymphgirl1, An Alternative Girl, Female, 36-45, Civil Service

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You writing a term paper; at your age? Because I KNOW you know the answer to this question! If you don't, you're in banking/finance. Pay somebody to tell you...!

- Response by thedaimler2006, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 46-55, Atlanta, Artist / Musician / Writer

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There is no "proper protocol". If you feel like it do it.

- Response by barbb, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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I think you should listen to what the women say, most like a man who take initiative. However, if the feeling is just NOT right, then don't do it. If the feeling isn't there, and you go to do it, you may find out what pepperspray tastes like. Body language and different cues will tell you whether it's okay. Biggest thing to watch for is if she seems to be waiting to go in for that kiss. Have fun!

- Response by doom2ruler, A Guy Critical, Male, 26-28, Philadelphia, Technical

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i wouldn't mind him kissing me without permission, but asking is also sweet.. lets me know he is a gentlemen :)

- Response by jojo914, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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All women are different. I would prefer not to be asked.

- Response by bikerchick1, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Atlanta, Financial / Banking

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I think it is nice of you to ask, whether that is proper I am not certain :)

Lady W*

- Response by ladywisteria, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Medical / Dental

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I think it depends on how long you've known the woman. I am not too cool with people touching me let alone kissing me when I hardly know them or if we don't have that rapport. I am not offended at all by someone who asks...If we are in a relationship it's a different story...

- Response by cocoacurevelous, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 36-45, Administrative

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In my opinion I like to be asked. It shows a level of respect. After the first time it's okay not to ask. To be more spontaneous. But I like the respect.

- Response by A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Home Maker

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I would prefer to be asked after all it's a first date and getting grabbed and kissed senseless
is more relationship stuff.
Some girl may get pissed of and slap you some may thing you are thinking sex only but then all depends on kiss also .
Light peck kiss on a cheek try to go with your intuition its hardly ever wrong ....

- Response by shygirl1979, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, Medical / Dental

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Asking is nice, very memorable, kind of prevents that awkward moment. I like it!

- Response by keldog4511, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Philadelphia, Managerial

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I always associate someone asking for the kiss as someone who is a bit too lacking in assertiveness for me. It's an immediate tip off to me that he is less than practiced between the sheets. He lacks in the art of seduction. Asking ruins the breathless moment. Feeling it and knowing she is feeling it too says to me that you are in tune with my body language and you are able to read those cues. Men have asked me first but known of those fellas were memorable.
Women give cues that it's ok to kiss them..if in doubt hug them first and you will feel it in her body..then pull back and kiss her. If she doesn't want you to kiss her, 9 out of 10 women will turn their face so you are presented with their cheek.
Sometimes it's better to just kiss the cheek after hugging them even if you know they want a kiss on the mouth...leave them wanting more!

- Response by joybird, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Rochester, Who Cares?

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Haven't you seen Hitch?! It's SO true!

If a woman fumbles with her keys when you walk her to her door, she wants you to kiss her. If she immediately puts the key in the lock, then give her a hug or a kiss on the cheek.

When you do kiss her, move in about 60% of the way and let her lean in for the other 40%.

simple simple :)

- Response by ibhyper, A Trendsetter, Female, 18-21, Student

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The best way is to go for a light peck on the lips, and if the girl really digs you she will turn it into more.

- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 22-25, Artist / Musician / Writer

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In a way I think it is respectful to ask, but it is so awkward and uncomfortable. I prefer that the man read the signs during the evening to see if the interest is mutual (am I leaning toward him, is there eye contact, am I hesitating about getting into my car, or hugging him quickly, talking quickly, like I need to leave.

If signs are positive, don't ask, hug me for a period of time, kiss me lightly on the cheek and then lean in slowly for a romantic, yet brief kiss-making me crave more in the future.

That's how I feel anyway. Everyone is different. I don't want a man asking. Makes him seem insecure.

- Response by lasuz, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Los Angeles, Medical / Dental

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Just lean in and go for it! It is respectful to ask but I would prefer a man not to. She did accept the date so she has to be somewhat interested in you. So just go for it and if she kisses you back then she is still interested in you after to getting to know you better...

- Response by kira85, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25, Dallas

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..I'd say ask..even though you can usually tell if the woman is comfortable w/out asking..but..it's a first date..so just make sure..

- Response by michellekia, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, St.Louis, Other Profession

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I personaly prefer a slap in the butt and then a kiss

- Response by A Creative, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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I'm torn on this.

I don't like being asked, because I feel like a bitch if I say no. On the flip side, if it was a first date and I wasn't already close friends with the guy ... I'd be quite upset that he kissed me on a first date.

But then, I'm much less affectionate than most ladies I know.

I would say (and this is myself personally) I expect a hug at the end of first date ... anything more than that is overkill. A phone call the next day can do as much to indicate your interest. (Maybe even more)

- Response by melpomme, An Alternative Girl, Female, 29-35, Philadelphia, Teaching

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Just pay attention to her body language...I hate to be asked if someone can kiss me. If you feel like she wants you to kiss her go for it..and if you're not reading her as well as you'd like a simple kiss on the hand or cheek is always the sweetest

- Response by thequeenofmean, A Life of the Party, Female, 22-25, Other Profession

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I think it's 'sweet' when a guy asks for a kiss because it shows me that they respect me and that they are taking my feelings into consideration as well as theirs...I think that its something that 'gentlemen' do...:)

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Student

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I must say.. it`s still depends on the girl , if you find her like hopeless romantic.. :> girl ofcourse , will be happy to hear your permission , look into her eyes and ask if you can kiss her :> .. but if not , go ahed and kiss the girl.. :>

- Response by asmaranita, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Other Profession

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Personally, I like to be asked. I guess it all depends on the type of woman you are going out with. If she leans toward you, as you leave, that's a good sign. I'm going to leave you with that.

- Response by tortureu2, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Other Profession

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No offense but asking is kind of wimpy.
Wait until you feel the moment is right...


- Response by wendyshoefitz123, A Player, Female, Who Cares?

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i dont usually kiss on my first date. huhuhu

- Response by bumblebee67, A Thinker, Female, 18-21

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Don't ask!!! Women see that as weak. If the woman is feelin, just go for it. Women want you to "be the man" and just take charge. Seriously man, just take what you want, unless you can tell the woman is not into it at all. If you're not sure, just go for it.

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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Just lean closer to her and kiss. No asking. It'll ruin the moment (for her, at least).

- Response by ehra21, A Creative, Female, 22-25, Fashion

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