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What (dirty talk) do women want?
Sex & Intimacy / 10:59 PM - Wednesday December 03, 2008

What (dirty talk) do women want?

What is a good way to gauge what kind of dirty talk a girl likes in the bedroom without having to ask them directly (that kind of spoils it)? Any suggestions?

- Asked by imagudspellr, A Guy Critical, Male, 26-28, Los Angeles, Military

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That's easy.

Just ask her. It won't spoil anything, as long as you're not asking her while you're having sex. Just talk about it with her sometime when you're outside of the bedroom.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Internet / New Media

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experience with her...
Start slowly and gently and see how she responds and what she says in return.
Try upping the ante the next time a bit, if that's what you prefer- and see if she balks or plays along.
Then feel free to openly discuss it sometime while you are out for an evening walk together. Far from the bedroom, not before or right after having sex- a disconnected discussion with no pressure and see what words she likes to use and words she doesn't like- and share your favorite words and ones you don't like....
Communicate and share.

- Response by momharleyxl, A Cool Mom, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Self-Employed

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Depends on the girl..and some are just..hags. If you've had any type of lengthy conversation..you should really be able to tell..by her language..likes and dislikes.

- Response by bikerchick1, A Life of the Party, Female, 36-45, Atlanta, Financial / Banking

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spoil it and ask.. if you go to far it can be scary or even off putting.. and NO name calling... even in the heat of passion.. just ask.. the best sex is when you communicate..

- Response by smartblond, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Charlotte, Self-Employed

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No problem.. when she kicks your ass out of the bed, you know you've gone too far!

- Response by snowater, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65

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Ya just have to test the waters. start talkin dirty!

- Response by amongyong, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Retired

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tell her nicely how you want to touch her - I don't know how close you are but you can start by telling her you want to kiss her and if her response is good, work your way down! -enjoy

- Response by ruffian, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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