|Sex & Intimacy / 2:52 PM - Monday October 27, 2008|
He got me pregnant and is now ignoring me help!
Ok this is kinda a long story but ill try to paraphrase it as much as i can, please dont bash or judge on me, im going through enough as it is. Ok last february i met this guy on a dating site, we were both freshman in college. Anyways we hit it off and started dating, i took his virginity two weeks later, we spent every night together, than out of the blue he dumped me while he was on his way to spring break in his home town. I thought i was pregnant but found out i wasnt and we talked when he came back about it and we decided to get back together as "friends with benefits" then i got into cocaine as a way to impress him and draw him closer because i knew he did it once in a while, however i got hooked, he tried several times to end it with me but i was so in love and so coked out i kept pursuing him. Then i finally found out i was pregnant for real by him, so i told him i got an abortion to gain points with him and have one more nice night with him, the next day i told him the truth and that i never got the abortion, he was pissed. Then i got into trouble with school and got kicked out and was put on a 5 day hold in the hospital for drugs (i was off after i found out i was pregnant) And he still talked to me over the phone even though he was a total jerk to me. I saw him one last time, and he wouldnt even kiss me.. Then one day i called him (it was summer and he was home and so was i 6 hours apart) and he hung up on me, this sparked a 3 month ignoring stonewall spree, i tried texting him and calling daily, harrassing his friends, nothing worked. So one day i tracked down his parents address and decided to confront him! i drove 6 hours and i was 4 months pregnant at the time, the second i knock on the door he comes storming out pushing me screaming GET THE F OUT OF HERE, he shoved me atleast 6 times and his parents tottally took his side and didnt even intervene when they saw him pushing me, they were denying i was pregnant, and calling me a cokehead. His mom even called the cops on me because i wouldnt leave, while she was inside his father said to me Exact words "so what if my son knocked you up, ive knocked up 5 or 6 girls and only take care of two of the kids, its your problem not his" i was stunned. So the cops came and of course they lied to him saying i was the psycho and that their son didnt shove me. So they gave him a ticket for physical harrassment and told me to leave. That night i was so mad i sent him tons of texts telling him i was gonna kill him and his family and that i had a gun and never to fall asleep. I was angry. so three days later i was served a restraining order he filed against me. So since then i switched schools and live 80 miles from him (thats if he attends the same university he did) and ive yet to hear from him, ive tried to contact him but stopped since because of the restraining order. Ive tried talking to his friends but hes denying that im even pregnant! i dont know what to do.. i just have so many questions, he was such a nice guy when i met him but now i see him in a different light. i want so badly for him to be a father. By the way i am 20 and he is 19 and i am keeping my child!! so please let me know what may or may not be going through his head and if you think he will be there when the child is born and if he will ever drop the restraining order?
- Asked by thegodthatfailed6969, A Thinker, Female, 26-28
so please let me know what may or may not be going through his head: That you're crazy and he never should have gotten together with you
It sounds like you need to seek some therapy right now, and continue with it. You are acting out of anger, and doing insane things like threatening people's lives. There should never be something that angers you so much, to threaten killing someone and even go as far as explaining what you'd use to do it, for something like this you should seek help immediately, as this is very erratic and dangerous behavior. A lot of the things you have done really make me question your stability, for example doing coccaine only to lure a guy in, lying about having an abortion, continuously calling him, driving 6 hours out of your way to stalk him, harassing his friends about him, and now you've moved 80 miles away from him, and one can only assume it's to be even closer to him. First of all, get over the thought of him being a father to this child, and especially get over the thought of him ever being there for you especially. He wants not 1 thing to do with you at this point, so get over that, and focus on how you can raise this child. You should really even question if you are stable enough to raise a child, and look into allowing a family to adopt your baby. If you are heartbroken this 19 year old guy is not answering your calls now, you are REALLY gonna be hearbroken seeing him not around for his own kid in the future.