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A Thinker (Female, 26-28) asked:


If you had a teenage daughter, what would you rather for her to say:
"Mom/dad, I'm gay," or "I'm pregnant" and why?


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A Guy Critical (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: tiger8urkat


Either way I would need a drink..........

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A Thinker (Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: ladywisteria


Either way I would love, accept and stand right by her side ... all the way!!!

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A Career Woman (Female, 36-45, Managerial) answered:

Screenname: jennylf


Doesn't matter for me at least. Either declaration would be for a lifetime (a partner situation, or a child situation). So whatever she comes up with would be what I would wrap my wits around while still loving her unconditionally as my child.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, San Diego, 29-35, Military) answered:

Screenname: citizensoldier


Dad, I'm pregnant. I can atleast beat the damn kid senseless.

If she's gay, she's already senseless.

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A Thinker (Female, Philadelphia, Who Cares?, Body Work) answered:

Screenname: myndseye711


I'm gay, of course.

No teen should have a child. Life can be challenging when you're gay, but it's nothing that will be life-altering. A child is.


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A Thinker (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: springishere


Mom, Dad..I am gay!!! I wouldnt mind at all..Who cares what
sex she likes..her bedroon..her business!!!

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A Creative (Female, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: leebee


I better not hear either of them for AT LEAST 13 more years!

But if I had to hear one within the next 10, I'd prefer it to be a pregnancy.

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A Creative (Male, 46-55, Alternative Medicine) answered:

Screenname: winterhaven


gay...it'll be cheaper when they split up and she comes runnin home.

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A Rebel (Male, San Jose, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: chavis


its the new millenium..... lord knows she could be gay, but still managed to get knocked up somewhere along the line

i cant even count the number of girls who cheated on their girlfriends and got knocked up.... ok yah i can.... i know 3 lol..... i cant make that shit up


whatever it is... she better be an adult when she comes to either of these conclusion lol.... and not like 14 or something

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A Life of the Party (Female, Indianapolis, 46-55, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: kmf1


I would want her to say she is preggers cuz I would want a grandkid. If she was gay it might be harder for her to have a baby or adopt one because of how some would see her.

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A Creative (Female, 18-21, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: vixenlegs22


I'm gay... because then you wouldnt have to shell out money for a little one that costs thousands a year

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55) answered:

Screenname: jenny12


I have a teenaged daughter.
This question is HARD but I think I'd rather hear that she is gay. I could deal with that. I'd have a harder time dealing with her having an abortion or raising her child. Not saying I wouldn't raise/help raise the child but I'd rather not and I'd rather not have HER deal with pregnancy and childbirth OR an abortion.

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A Sportif (Female, Vancouver, 36-45, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: vwgirl


Gay. Gay isn't a life sentence like having a baby too young is.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, 18-21, Student) answered:

Screenname: matte


Gay. That way, she won't get preggo! :D

But really, teenage pregnancy impacts the rest of a person's life. Being gay is so insignificant. This really shouldn't be a difficult decision.

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A Thinker (Female, San Antonio, 29-35, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: marcy101


Both! and then take it from there!

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A Rebel (Male, 46-55, Construction) answered:

Screenname: rukidding


dad i'm happy

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 22-25, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: dontknowitall34


pregnant

as long as she gets married its not a bad thing

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 46-55) answered:

Screenname: pepperman46


I'm pregnant. because I would be a grandpa

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 18-21, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: alone4ever


I could care less. Being gay would be her decision and her personal life would be none of my business. And if she was pregnant, honestly, I would be disappointed that she was not more careful, but I would still support her.

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A Cool Mom (Female, Sacramento, 56-65, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: karmcarter


Gay. Being pregnant means she was not being responsible, she was being in the moment and not thinking of consequences. Being gay is hard and many times it's not a choice.

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A Trendsetter (Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?) answered:


Pregnant.

I have 3 gay relatives, 2 male, 1 female and it's a very hard life. We as a society aren't as "open" to that lifestyle as we claim/pretend we are. I had twins at 16 so I know how hard it is to be a teen mom. But I would still take that situation over all the ridicule, scorn, discrimination and outright cruelty my gay relatives have had to endure and would rather my daughter be pregnant than gay anyday.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Pittsburgh, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: bigcurt


I would rather have her pregnant as I do not think I could handle one of my kids being gay

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A Cool Mom (Female, St.Louis, 29-35, Retail) answered:

Screenname: elizabethmom05


Both, because whatever she tells me, I will support her and love her unconditionaly.

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A Creative (Female, St.Louis, 18-21, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: pudgeybunny


Gay. Granted they're both life changing, but I would rather she be gay than have to cut her childhood short with a child.

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A Creative (Female, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: preciousangel


As parents we always have certain expectations of our children and that's okay... but one must understand that teenagers are human and they make mistakes in life just like moms and dads have too...

So whatever your daughter comes and says to you just be patient with her because after all you love her and she is still your daughter and no one is perfect..This is all apart of the word called LIFE..and come what may we all have to take the bitter with the sweet..

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Sacramento, 46-55, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: rhunt0210


That's a very hard question, because both would be difficult. Not because I wouldn't love my daughter less, I would have to alter my life's outlook.

Every parent wants what's they think is best for their children. Because we're older and believe that we have experience, we want to protect them from the harm of the world. We believe that we know how hard it would be to be a pregnant teenager. It has to be equally as difficult to be a gay teenaged girl too. The world is hard enough as it is when you're straight and not pregnant.

If I had to choose, then I'd take the pregnant teenager. There are corrective actions to get her back on the right track, such as adoption, abortion or keeping the baby and keeping her in school. Hopefully, with this pregnancy, she might have learned her lesson.

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A Creative (Male, San Francisco, 26-28, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: foonlord


pregnant. i could deal with my son or daughter having a kid much better than i could them being gay. just being honest. i have gay friends, and i love them, but its not what i would ideally like my kid to be.

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A Married Girl (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: sweetgirl88


I think that both would be hard to hear but me myself would rather it be pregnant and not gay. I feel like people can do as they want and I have nothing against guy people I have friends that are.

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A Hip-Hop Girl (Female, 29-35) answered:

Screenname: pinknblu


gosh, scary either way, i guess I'd cry for a moment, then remember the love i have for her and give her all the much more love, i have to give!!!

hopefully, i won't go through this!!!
why?? it ruins my view on what i think is best for her, but then again it is her life, isn't it!!! I would always stand by her, no mater what!!

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A Thinker (Female, Cleveland, 29-35, Student) answered:

Screenname: seductivepisces9


Either way she'd get my unwavering support.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: cheekychops


I'd have to say pregnant (I'm a traditionalist - I had a bro-in-law and sister-in-law both gay so nothing against gay or being gay) I would just be afraid for her emotionally and psychologically cos I know they had dramas. Pregnant okay granbaby - more to love. Gay is preferable to her coming home and saying mum I am an alcoholic or drug addict though.

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A Career Woman (Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: kypevans


I'm gay, because an unplanned teenage pregnancy can really make your life a struggle.

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A Thinker (Female, Columbus, 29-35, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: 1flyonthewall


Gay, because that isn't a problem, it's a personal decision.
Pregnancy effects everyone

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A Cool Mom (Female, Kansas City, 46-55, Student) answered:

Screenname: denbich


For some strange reason, I find her telling me any of them upsetting. I do in fact have a teenage daughter and some of her friends are gay and some are pregnant or recently had a baby,( she was asked to be god mother to one of friends babies'). If she were gay people would forever judge her and ridicule her and the same goes for being a teen mom.

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A Creative (Female, Dallas, 36-45, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: curvysmartgirl


Even though it's irrational, I'd rather she told me she was pregnant. It means she made a bad decision, and she can learn from it. However, if she's gay, it's probably for life.

I have gay friends that I love, and I know it's not rational, but I would not like one of my children to be gay. However, if they told me they were, I'd still love them and try to be supportive.

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A Career Woman (Female, 22-25, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: azhotgirl


Either one, where are the maritinis at? ...I would def need one..

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 18-21) answered:

Screenname: fortminor123


It doesn't really matter to me as to what she'd say.
She's would still be my daughter, and I'll love her either way.

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A Life of the Party (Female, 36-45, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: 2hot2handle


gay= no babies so i choose gay.

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A Rebel (Male, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: stevo81


My first question would be "Are you happy with it?"

If her answer is "yes" to either one, I'd smile and give them a hug, and tell them I love them.

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A Thinker (Female, Who Cares?, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: ladywisteria


I'd rather have her be gay then pregnant!

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A Jock (Male, Tampa, 26-28, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: strongbow


first.. i would cry for having a kid
then i would cry because she is not a virgin
then i would cry cause so got boned by some prick or she is going down on some chicks. Then i would cry for having a kid.

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A Trendsetter (Female, 26-28, Political / Government) answered:

Screenname: annie27


Either would maybe be a shock, but I'd accept either one of them. Both take a lot of guts to accept and carry out in this world. I'd be proud either way.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: headscratching


how about Mom/Dad ,i think i want to stay celebate till i'm thirty?

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An Alternative Girl (Female, Philadelphia, 36-45, Body Work) answered:

Screenname: kitten528


I would love my daughter no matter what. She's human like everyone else...each one would involve a struggle, but I would be right by her side to help her through it all.

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A Guy Critical (Male, 56-65, Transportation) answered:

Screenname: nuttyprofessor


I am pregnant.

What is more normal for a woman to be than pregnant ???

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: patresi


If alone, financially ill prepared and unmarried, Gay of course. If happily married and financially ready, then Dad, I'm pregnant sounds great.

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A Career Woman (Female, New York, 26-28, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: paris31


honestly I would be upset with both but support my child with either one. Don't have anything against gays but would be dissapointed if my child was gay and I would be very angry if my teenage daughter came out pregnant. I would get over both and love my child no matter what but my first reaction, I will be in total shock.

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An Alternative Girl (Female, 26-28, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: gbanga


Gay.

Being gay is not an issue..

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 18-21, Student) answered:

Screenname: brokenglass


depends on how old she is

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