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I meet a person on a chat and ...
untitled / Married Life / 6:38 PM - Tuesday May 13, 2008
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(Female, 29-35) asked:


i meet a person on a chat and we speak by phone for a long time but nothing happened nothing else than talk and talk we both were married just a friend my husband never know about this friend of mine now we stop talking and i been tinking that was cheating ? what do you think?>


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An Alternative Girl (Female, 29-35, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: stuckinthe80s


if you had feelings for this person, i think emotional infidelity is just as bad as physical infidelity.

why were you out talking to guys in chat rooms anyway, and then on the phone for hours, if that wasn't your intention

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, Los Angeles, 46-55, Technical) answered:

Screenname: gaudiotree


IT'S A MATTER OF OPINION. i GOT CAUGHT FOR THE EXACT SAME THING BY MY WIFE AND TO HER, I WAS CHEATING. TO ME, I FOUND A NEW FRIEND AND SOMEONE TO TALK TO. IF THAT'S ALL YOU ARE DOING IS CHATTING ON LINE, I DON'T SEE THE ISSUE.

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A Career Woman (Female, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: baddgirl


Any relationship you have that you cannot share with your spouse for fear that they would not understand it or condone it, IS inappropriate and IS cheating. It's not about the sex... it's about the emotional commitment.

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A Creative (Female, New York, 29-35, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: grassysgal


Did u speak with this dude about ur husband?? Was is just friendly chat?? If ur questioning it u probably were cheating emotionally. Why did u stop talking??
But u know what people have done worse and moved past it.... good luck girl!!!!!

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A Life of the Party (Female, Kansas City, 29-35, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: lk2mvit


your husband never knew you were talking to him? Im sorry but that is wrong. In my opinion when you are with someone married or dating and you have "new" friends it's respectful to let the other know. Why didn't you tell him? Did you secretly hope for more? Perhaps not cheating in the sense of the word, but definitely not cool.

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: rugby1


OK, so most people say this was cheating. but why did you want or seek another person to talk to? is it because your husband isn't there for you? if so, it's still cheating but it's not such a black and white situation.

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A Thinker (Female, 29-35) answered:


talking to someone is not cheating but hiding this from your husband is cheating. Let ur husband know about it. Make it a healthy relationship. Tomorrow if he finds this on his own, even if u havent cheated he will feel so & this will make u feel guilty.

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