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So, someone wants your "leftovers". Big deal?
So, someone wants your "leftovers". Big deal? / Married Life / 6:33 PM - Tuesday May 13, 2008
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A Thinker (Female, 46-55) asked:


Sometimes, I think my teenaged daughter is too smart. We were sitting on the sofa watching "Reba" and Reba thought her ex-husband would be jealous of her dating another man.

Conversation between daughter and me:

Me: "Why would Reba think her ex-husband would mind her dating again? He dumped her for another woman."
Daughter: "Because he's jealous."
Me: "Why? I wouldn't be."
Daughter: "That's because you aren't a DUDE!"

I left my first husband and I was happy for him when he met and later married a nice lady.
So, how have you felt when the man/woman you no longer wanted and left...moved on to someone else?
Is that jealousy thing really a "dude" thing?


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A Rebel (Male, San Jose, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:

Screenname: chavis


no.... its for simps


real dudes dont care... and we have this bro mentallity where the "other guy" is actually doing US a favor lol...... he gets props lol



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A Thinker (Female, New York, 56-65, Civil Service) answered:


As a divorced woman, I never felt jealousy towards my ex because there was no love left.

I think it's important to consider if one's ex is entirely out of their system, or not, "dude" irrelevant.

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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, New York, 56-65, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: treguy


Probably more a guy thing. He would be mad that he couldn't make the relashionship work and you are now happy. Plus another man is sleeping with you. And the other extreme is that he is happy for you hopes you will marry and stop his alimony.

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A Rebel (Male, Chicago, 46-55, Retired) answered:

Screenname: william45


The trouble with speaking for dudes is that there are over 3 billion of us dudes and hard to get a one size fits all thing on that. I am glad my ex found someone and remarried. I am glad he took care of her all these years and I am friends with him. Stereotyping is so much fun ain't it? lol

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 22-25, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: dontknowitall34


naw
everyone gets jealous
i can't imagine a woman that wouldn't get jealous if I left them
I'm so hot!!!!!1

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A Married Girl (Female, 36-45, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: 1wonderfullife


It depends truly on the person. My husband's ex was extremely jealous when we became engaged. I think it's easier for a spouse to accept their ex remarrying when they are in a good relationship themselves (and that good relationship can include being happy with yourself). If they are struggling in their own relationship, it can be a bit of a slap in the face. My husband would certainly be fine with his ex remarrying.

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A Thinker (Female, Philadelphia, 46-55, Medical / Dental) answered:

Screenname: experience101


No, it's not a "dude" thing - I was upset about my ex dating someone, probably because at the time I hadn't found anyone to replace him.

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