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untitled / Married Life / 5:38 PM - Tuesday May 13, 2008
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A Thinker (Female, 46-55) asked:


Hi, Please tell me if I am wrong? My husbands father would like to go on a trip for a couple of weeks and would like pay all expenses. My husband said that he would go but my wife would like to go too. His parents do not approve of our marriage. So his father said he does not want me to go with them. I was very hurt. I told my husband that he is disrespecting me buy going without me. I don't want him to go. Am I wrong? Thanks


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A Thinker (Female, 36-45) answered:

Screenname: southjerseygirl


Oh hell no! He should grow a set and tell his parents how rude they are and to shove that trip right up their collective asses. You are his wife. He should stand by you. Period.

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 22-25, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: dontknowitall34


that's stupid
what's their problem?

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking) answered:

Screenname: justpassingthru


NO! You're not wrong - your husband is. He should have politely thanked his dad for the offer and declined to go because his wife was not welcome.

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A Life of the Party (Male, 56-65, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: poolfish2


You're right. He should have picked between you and his parents long ago. Sounds like a mama's boy who can't cut the necktie he's tied to.

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A Father Figure (Male, Chicago, 46-55, Self-Employed) answered:

Screenname: stringjammer


If my parents did not approve of my fiancee, I wouldn't be going on any vacations with dad.

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A Thinker (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: springishere


Your husband sounds like a JERK!!.You are his wife for christ sake..Tell him to stick up for you and respect you..Hie parents are jerks too..Thats where he got it from..Kick his ass!!lol!!

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, 46-55) answered:

Screenname: unclebilly


Is this an all guy trip like hunting??? OK Let him go.

If it includes everyone male and female of his family, NO. He needs to decide if he is married or not. Maried he stays with you AND he informs his parents how rude the invitation is OR why be married to a whimp or a coward who won't stand up for you? You need to stand YOUR ground!

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A Sportif (Female, San Francisco, 46-55, Home Maker) answered:

Screenname: hulagirl55


You're not wrong, your husband shouldn't be going without you period! How long has this been going on? I agree with you that your husband should not be going. This will cause alot of tension in your marriage if he goes, another point for his parents against you. If he goes, that is a red flag in my book.

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A Creative (Female, Kansas City, 18-21, Artist / Musician / Writer) answered:

Screenname: vixenlegs22


You people make me sick! Good thing you are annon... What makes you think that you can ruin the santion between a man and a woman?

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A Creative (Female, 22-25, Other Profession) answered:

Screenname: leebee


it's a tricky one.
If it's an all-male trip, then that's one thing.
But if it's just you that he doesn't want there, than your husband should stand up to him.

At the same time, at his age, as sad as it is, his father isn't going to be around forever and it could be good for them to spend that time together.

Maybe not specific to the trip, but your husband needs to stand up to his family and make it understood that you are his wife whether they like it or not, and that they are to respect his decision whether they would have made it for him or not.

This is his battle to fight, it's not up to you to handle it or to make them come around.



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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, 46-55, Managerial) answered:

Screenname: nytesky


Like others have said, the type and intent of this particular trip could make a difference on how I would respond. However, saying that "His parents do not approve of our marriage" makes it sound like it runs much deeper than this one incident. If I were in that situation I would tell my parents "she's my wife and if you can't accept her then you don't accept me".

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A Creative (Female, Philadelphia, 46-55, Managerial) answered:

Screenname: keldog4511


Your husband should tell his parents that unless the invitation includes his wife, he is not going.

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A Thinker (Female, 46-55, Consulting) answered:

Screenname: edi406


NO, you are not wrong.- I think this is terribly rude of your father - in - Law.- And I also do not believe your husband should accept the invitation without you.-

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