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Getting over fast
getting over fast / Married Life / 8:41 PM - Sunday May 11, 2008
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(Female, 26-28) asked:


It has been four months since my boyfriend broke up with me. I feel I am getting better everyday but there are really times when the urge to communicate to him is really great. He hasn't texted me first since the break up. Sometimes I would really miss him that after a month of communication, I find myself trying to befriend him. I just want to be his friend again. I believe he is already with someone else right now...

How long will it take you to get over with some you love? I am quite afraid because it took me more than a year to get over with my previous boyfriend and it is really very tiring. I don't want to let that happen again. Any advices? thank you..


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A Creative (Male, Los Angeles, 26-28, Science / Engineering) answered:

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You need to tell yourself in your mind that he no longer wants anything to do with you as he has not communicated with you in a long time. It will not be easy to just forget about him, but you can make this process easier if you find some sort of hobby that keeps your mind busy and makes you feel like you're important.You will find out that you will be forgetting about him much sooner than you would anticipate.

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A Sweet Sarah (Female, Who Cares?, Self-Employed) answered:

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Honey you got the lowdown blues - best thing to do (besides a new lover) is to pamper yourself! Second, get in shape (join a gymn or frequent the spa). Get lean and mean, and ready to do new things with new people. Pining and whining are no way to spend your time. No man is worth it anyway. You GO, GIRL!

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An Intellectual Guy (Male, New York, 26-28, Other Profession) answered:

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The first thing you need to do is accept the fact that you have broken up – or ask yourself if you want to get back together.

If you decide that you want to remain broken up I would stop communication because it will only prolong feelings associated with the breakup.

Try to move on! Go on some dates! You will feel better once you see that other people are out there.


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A Thinker (Female, Miami, 66 or older, Who Cares?) answered:

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Don't try communicating with him...save yourself the agony of a cold voice on the other end of the line.

If you remain wounded, seek some help to help you snap out of it. Love gone sour can put you into a difficult rut and only you, with the help of some friends, can spring you out of it.

Try and get involved in something you are passionate about - whether it be music, art, sports...but KEEP BUSY!! Keep those empty hours filled. You're allowed to reminisce, but woulda, coulda, shoulda - is all overwith and the less you dwell on it, the healthier it is and....the sooner it will be that you'll hook up with someone more promising who may even treat you better.

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A Creative (Female, 36-45, Other Profession) answered:

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Don't put yourself through trying to be his friend. Ask yourself how you'd be feeling about a woman who'd caused you the same amount of pain. Would you want to be her friend? If you're honest with yourself you'll probably find that at the bottom of your heart you're hoping that the renewed friendship will lead to a renewed romance. But the truth is that if he wanted that, he'd have let you know somewhere during that emotional post-breakup period that he missed you. If you haven't heard from him by now, he's moved on and that's what you need to do, too. It will make the recovery period shorter. Good luck.

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A Thinker (Female, 26-28) answered:


Do things that take your mind off him and after a while you won't even remember his name. Have fun don't sit around being sad. He isn't thinking about you as much as you if he already had someone else.

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