Why do I attract gay men?
So I notoced a pattern of the men I attract. They are gay men who are not out of the closet yet and kid themselves into being straight.
I know what this says about their personality. Whay I NEED TO KNOW is why me? what does this say about me? I am a straight female. I LOVE jack on will and grace. I am very tolerant towards gay rights. I grew up as a Tom Boy but not I dress up and look all girly. I'm 23.
Please tell me what you think about me is attracting these insecure, hiding in the closet men? If you are one of those men, what is it about the female that attracts you and makes you think you'll get away with it?
Update: May 03, 2008.
Do you mind sharing your experience and helping me? I always heard about such stories and just COULDN'T understand why the hell they do it!!! Nothing against gays until it gets to this point!
How do I know if the guy I am (kinda) involved with is gay or not?
Did you date him before the wedding? if this is too personal, please don't answer it: while dating, did you not have any intimate moments?
Can gay men still get an erection from women? What signs should I pay attention to? Should I try getting intimate and see his reaction?
I asked him if he was gay few times and he said NO. Did you ever ask your ex before marriage?
Update: May 03, 2008.
This is my fear! Getting married to a gay man! Nowadays its hard to tell if a man is gay or not. Not all act like the stereotypes we have.
What you said about going for the ultra feminine woman makes total sense if the guy is straight but insecure about his masculanity. They go for the weak woman (but I wouldn't say thats what Asian woman are like-at least the ones I know are very assertive and some even wear the pants in the relationship!).
But about gay men in the closet, I don't get what it is about me thats making them feel comfortable to be with me! I am not ultra feminie..if any, I am proud and comfortable of expressing my masculine side. I know when to act like a lady and dress up and turn heads, but not afraid of yellin and spitting in public. Someone answered telling me I could be a lesbian or a "dyke". Thats not true either.
Thanks for the reply! Very interesting insight.
- Asked by A Creative, Female, 29-35, Washington, DC, Science / Engineering