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Married Life / 12:56 AM - Thursday January 03, 2008

Married Man Affair

I have been having an affair with a married man who looks me in the eyes and tells me he loves me, is very passionate and talks about our future together BUT first he has to let his wife cope gently (she knows about us) and he has just taken her to New York from Australia to break up. Am I an idiot to believe him? He tells me he is not attracted to her and can't sleep with her. They have no kids.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

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You're not an idiot, but even though he says he loves you, he's still married to her. Until he's divorced there can be no future for you two. I know it'll hard, but you must tell him goodbye until then.

Good luck.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 46-55, Portland, Teaching

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He is full of crap.. period

- Response by smartblond, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Charlotte, Self-Employed

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..Yes you are a idiot..and even if he break's up with his wife and get's with you..he will do the same chit to you also as he doing to his wife..

..When will you learn the way a person treat's other's will be the same way that person will treat you in time...

..Is that what you want...?

- Response by mauddeep, An Intellectual Guy, Male, Who Cares?, New York, Science / Engineering

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were you born yesterday or what?
i cant sleep with my wife, i dont love her anymore, my wife is having an affair with someone else, my wife is dying of cancer....these are all used, overused and abused lines of the much married - to get your sympathy.

- Response by bubbly, A Creative, Female, Who Cares?, Executive

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Yeah, yeah, yeah. Blah, blah, blah. It is the same old song and dance that has been playing for the last 3000 years. P.T. Barnum said it: There is a sucker born every minute.

Why would an apparently intelligent, witty, erudite, good looking woman suck into that crap. Why? There is no profit in it. It is similar to hitting your thumb with a hammer a couple times a day for years on end. It only feels good when you stop.

rekkonball

- Response by rekkonball, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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Married guys have developed lying into an art form. He's a lying sack of shit. He's stringing you along.

I have a friend who let a married guy string her along for ten years! In the meantime, he had two kids by his wife while he was seeing her. She finally got the message and left him alone and he is still with his wife.

- Response by toni6921, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, Political / Government

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I can't comment on whether you are and idiot to believe him. He has already established that he is untruthful because he has had an affair and certainly didn't come home after your first night and say "Honey Hi I just slept with another woman." Why do you think he is trustworthy. Are you his first and only affair or has he had and is he having others? The explanation he has given you is really old and unoriginal. The issue for you is how did I meet and have a relationship with this guy? Was he the aggressor? Is he doing the same to me and will he do it in the future? Not all affairs are doomed but I would bet the odds in Vegas are really high.

- Response by coppercutoff, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Lawyer

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I too am having an affair with a married man; but I'm married too. Of COURSE he lies and says he loves me. That's part of the fun. Rare is the man will leave his wife - you ARE idiotic to believe him. If you really want a relationship of your own, go find a single guy...very easy unless you are less than attractive and fun.

I am going to end my fling soon because I never meant to get involved in the first place, and if I listened to everything he said, I'd think we would divorce our mates and get married - but why? So we could cheat each other? Where did you come from to buy into the whole 'I love you' thing? It's for sex and ego. ALL men say 'I Love You'. Be insightful enough to know when they mean it.

- Response by ikandee, A Trendsetter, Female, 36-45

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hi i have an affair also and recently he broke up with me because he cannot take it anymore. he is a christian and it bothered him so much. i love him and he said that he loves me too and wanted me to find a single guy that can provide hapiness and commit to me. we been together for a year. right now i am so depressesd and lonely . I miss him a lot but i have to let go because i love him. not all married men are liers.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

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lol.......


Your joking yourself.


sorry. HUGS

- Response by pamster, A Hippie Chick, Female, 36-45, Atlanta, Home Maker

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-Yes you are an idiot and a foolish person for starting an affair with a married man, in the first place.
-Secondly, how do you know that she knows about you? Are you really sure he told her? I wouldn't believe him.
-Why does he need to fly her to New York from Australia to break up with her??? I think they're just enjoying a vacation together, while you get to stay behind and hope for the impossible.
-If he breaks up with her, the day will come that he won't feel 'attracted to you' anymore and will seek outside of your marriage. And you will deserve this too!
-Any actor can look you in the eye and tell you he loves you. Didn't mother teach to beware of lying, deceiving men? A man can tell you he's in love with you, look you in the eye and kiss you passionately and then he's gone the next day.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 29-35, Fitness

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im having an affair with a married man. i know we can't be married but he loves me a lot and i love him too. he satisfy me like noone can ever satsyfy a woman. im happy and hes happy. so when i get married we r own our own. just enjoy your life. O GOD!! HES THE BEST!!

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25

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