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| Family & Parenting / 5:17 PM - Wednesday September 12, 2007 |
love dilutionThere is such a thing as having too many children. "Love dilution". That is the term I use for large families. I put that number at 4 children. 5 or more children - some of them will feel somewhat neglected and less loved.
- Asked by abeeser, An Alternative Girl, Male, 22-25, Brest |
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I think it's pretty accurate. If it wasn't, why would families with tons of kids always expect the older ones to pitch in and help with the younger ones?
- Response by justpassingthru, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Financial / Banking
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I think that some kids will always feel neglected or lacking in attention, regardless of how many siblings they have. My family is catholic on all sides - so massive huge families with kids running all over the place, and I don't believe I've heard anyone complain of love dilution (One family has NINE kids!)
- Response by mountainchic, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession
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This can happen in any size family though I see where it'd be more an issue in a larger one. I grew up in a family of 7. Somehow we were all ok but we had each other to give and receive attention when we needed it. Its pretty fun too. Lol
- Response by thottienc, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Charlotte, Who Cares?
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I don't think its love dilution, its time dilution. There are only so many hours in the day.
- Response by km12, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, New York, Student
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I guess it's possible. But it's also possible for the child not to get enough attention in small families where the parents are very busy or self-absorbed.
- Response by goodlucky1, A Hippie Chick, Female, Who Cares?
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- Response by dontknowitall34, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 26-28, Student
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I think there can be some truth to that. I'm an only child who has no kids, though; so what do I know?
- Response by undecidedfuture1, A Creative, Female, 29-35
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I think large familys in the long run have a more stable soild faimly structure in total in that there is so much and so many people their might not be as much one on one time per child by parent but also the child is always in the company of other family membersno matter hgow many children you have or what there ages there will always be jealosy and sibling rivalery!!My daughter was 14 when I had my son. she had always been the BABY she was and probably still is in some ways jealous and feels that was robbed from her!
- Response by swemur1, A Creative, Female, 36-45
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Ok this is hysterical. True Story...
- Response by sg311, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, New York
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I had more then 4 children and none of them suffered from lack of attention or anything else. You just have to be organized and have your priorities streight. None of the boys felt less loved at anytime and have told me this since they have become adults!!
- Response by barbb, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?
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I don't believe that at all... you love them all equally. Do you have as much time to spend with them? No, obviously not, but the other siblings pick up a lot of the slack there. And over time they'll have their siblings around for more of their life than their parents anyway.
- Response by drevil77m, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 29-35, Calgary, Technical
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I come from a family of 10 children, I see your point and see some truths in it. I would never ever trade any part of my life growing up in a large family. I have learned to many life lessons. Some of my siblings did feel they weren't loved as much as others, but I have always felt loved and appreciated.
- Response by enduring, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?
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