This could be lengthy.
In reverse order. A trusting relationshi is one in which you know that each partner has the best interests of the couple at heart. Everything they do, even if it appaears a little selfish, is for the good of the couple. Trust requires an open communication between the two, and the ability to make yourself vulnerable to the other, knowing that they will never intentionally hurt you.
Honest means that communication between the couple is straight forward, no double talk, no lies of ommission. The odd white lie is one thing, like "no those jeans look fine", but no major lies.
Loving is the key here. What is love? Love in some way is the desire to see the other person thrive. To see them be as happy as they can be in life, to see them fulfill their potential. It does not mean to completely surrender your needs to theirs, but to be mindful of the other person as much as possible.
Now what does it take to have one, this will vary from couple to couple.
As far as friends go, some can handle close friends of the opposite sex, others cannot. One needs to keep this in consideration when deciding what to do.
Money, well you can be dirt poor and have a great marriage, but in terms of monetary decisions, each couple must make decisions based on their style. We make all decisions together and share the accounts, others might want three accounts, one for the common bills and the other two for autonomous spending.
Space, I need alone time like most men, my wife respects this and tries to give it to me when I need it.
In any event, it requires a combination of being true to yourself in these areas and making sure you have what you need to be stable, so that you can flourish as a couple. In this way you stay in aposition to keep feeding the growth of the couple, and it is the good of the relaitonship that stays the primary focus.
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, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Ottawa, Who Cares?
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