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Emotionally Unavailable
Dating / 11:34 AM - Wednesday April 25, 2007

Emotionally Unavailable

Do you think that emotionally unavailable really just equals he/she is just not that into you?

- Asked by soonergirl1975, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, New Orleans

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YES. Absolutely any excuse whatsoever for a man not to pursue a relationship is code for "he's not that into you/he doesn't see a future with you." Period. End of story, finito.

- Response by sakura1, A Player, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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Usually, yes...but not always. Some men (and women, too) really just are emotionally unavailable. To everyone. It can be something that has nothing to do with you. Some people have attachment disorders or other issues that prevent them from being truly close to anyone, even if they really want to be close. In order for the relationship to thrive, he or she will need to get help with that.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Internet / New Media

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- Response by luckyinkentucky, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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i think it depends... if the person is emotionally unavailable because of an emotional scar from an ex, then it takes time to heal.

- Response by tonyletigre, A Creative, Male, 29-35, New York, Internet / New Media

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Yes.That is indeed sugar coat for they aren't that into you.

- Response by p0pc0rn, A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35, Boston, Self-Employed

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Yes, that is what it means. Only a few men really cannot share their emotions even when they are into the relationship. 99% of the time it means he is not in love.

- Response by falconf1, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, Ottawa, Who Cares?

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- Response by nottshort, A Life of the Party, Female, 46-55, Rochester, Student

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It depends.

A person is defintiely emotionally unavailable if many or all of the following apply to them:

(a) they are not close to siblings who are within two years apart in age, even though they were raised in the same household;
(b) they maintain no childhood friends from juinor high, high school or college;
(c) they don't have or can't maintain best friends;
(d) they keep friends at an arms length all the time.

- Response by montezillo, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, San Francisco, Who Cares?

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