Why doesn't he call me more often?
How much does a man's frequency in communicating with a woman say about his interest level in her?
I'm seeing a man who isn't good at staying in touch by phone or email. We were close friends before we started seeing each other, and he was bad at communication then, so I know that this is normal for him. He truly has a very busy schedule between his job and other responsibilities. He's pretty consistent about making sure we get together regularly, but he just doesn't call or email in between seeing each other (even though we're quite close). Sometimes he doesn't even return a call or reply to an email when it would be expected. I only contact him maybe twice a week myself, so I don't think he's just annoyed by me.
He always seems glad to hear from me, but he's just not good at remembering to call or email me now and then if we haven't talked in several days. He does sometimes call out of the blue and we'll talk for an hour or two, but it's a surprise when it happens.
Now, I'm comfortable with not talking every single day, but when I'm seeing someone and I'm usually the one who has to contact him, I begin to feel like I'm not a high priority to him. I mean, if he was thinking about me, he'd call me more often than twice a month, right? Are my feelings justified, or do some men just not see it this way?
- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Teaching