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Methods of birth control
methods of birth control / Sex & Intimacy / 3:46 PM - Monday October 09, 2006
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An Engaged Girl (Female, Milwaukee, 22-25, Fitness) asked:


i need birth control advice. i am getting married and i am a virgin. we don't want to have children until after 2 years. we are getting married in a year. when should i start taking birth-control pills? i know it will need to be in my system for a while before it starts working and my body gets adjusted. what is the name of the best pill? is birth control alone good enough?....i don't want to use a condom when we are having sex b/c i want to be able to feel him inside me without the condom in the way. also should i discuss this with my fiance or will he not care what method we use?


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A Life of the Party (Female, 22-25, Who Cares?) answered:

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ok, so im not the "brightest" person on this subject, but be on it at least 2 months for it to be effective (i believe its 2 months) *talk to your doctor*

every pill effects everyone differently... some will do absolutely nothing to you, while others will make you gain weight, loos your sex drive, ect ect ect.. the only way to find out is to try it out for 6 months, and if you like it, stick with it, if not go back to the doc & get it changed..

i suggest you take a low-hormone pill... there are several differnt ones out there.. just talk to your doctor about it all & they will beable to give you better info than you'll get off of here.. and also talk w/your fiance about it.. (letting him know what you want to do--getting on the pill) *its better he knows you're on something so he doesnt worry so much when you do start having sex*

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A Mr. Married Guy (Male, 56-65, Science / Engineering) answered:

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You need to talk to your doctor about this one. He can prescribe the best pill for you. You want to do this fairly soon. Birth control pill dosage can be adjusted for your body. Every woman is different. Pills are full of hormones that control cause a lot of moods etc. You will be much happier if you can get this adjustment done before you bite your new husband some day.

I am not selling condoms, but they don't screw with your hormone levels and contrary to what you believe, you will be able to feel him inside of you with the condom. They are very thin, transmit heat very well and totally enjoyable. There is a bit of trick getting them on, and since you will not have any practice with this, that could be a turn off. But if you and your new husband are open to one another, you might find it sort of fun. I know I did.

And yes, you should talk to him about this. He should care very much about you, what you are thinking of putting in your body, how it will affect you, especially since you are worried about his feelings and pleasure. This is one thing new couples should talk about. You want to know in general how he feels about sex.

There are other options besides these two. Again, talk to a good doctor about them.

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A Cool Mom (Female, 46-55, Medical / Dental) answered:

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Ok..you're going to marry the man, so YES, you should discuss it with him. Even if he didn't care what method you use, he should have some say-so, don't you think? A good marriage will involve input from both partners, not just the opinion of one.

Now, about bcp's. There is no way to name the "best one" for you, since all women are different and use thier own "best one". Trust your doctor to start you off with the safest one and follow up with others if it doesn't seem to agree with you. Since you don't want to use condoms, you might want to start on bcp's soon, as it takes your body at least 3 months to get used to them and build up a level of the med sufficient to keep you from becoming pregnant. Add to that the trial and error period when you finally find the right pill for you, and by the time you get married, you should be good to go.

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A Trendsetter (Female, Cleveland, 22-25, Administrative) answered:

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talk to your doctor. I use ortho-tricyclen-lo.... its perfect for me. There are others like seasonale that just weren't right. If I were you i would just start using it as soon as you can. It does more that stop you from getting pregnant... it regulates ur period, is good for ur skin, and things like that. It won't hurt to start using it early. and you won't need condoms to prevent you from getting pregnant...condoms would prevent STDs which i'm sure you know what he has or doesn't have since you are marrying him... so i wouldn't let condoms be a worry!

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A Rebel (Male, San Jose, 22-25, Internet / New Media) answered:

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the pill worked for me and my girl for 2 years.... pulling out worked for another two.... getting too wild up in the heat of passion with an ex led me to be a father hahaha..

congrats on the marraige... hope the "plan" works out for the both of ya

ps: you guys should just go ahead and have sex... your missing out on alot of good stuff... plus you wanna know whether you're gonna love it... or hate it..... it could easily go both ways.... but dont take my word for it... im just a "dumb kid" hahah

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A Creative (Male, Pittsburgh, 26-28, Technical) answered:

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dear -- please know that you should be wary of tossing the words "also should i discuss this with my fiance?" so carelessly into the equation!

Yes, you should discuss it. Do you know what the condom feels like? Do you know the difference with/without? If you're a virgin, then you wouldn't know....

If you ADAMANTLY don't want kids, and if you'd consider an abortion before childbirth, then use both -- condoms and pills. If you would prefer no kids, but will accept them when they come -- then you can use just one or the other.

The guy who said 'pull out' is a moron. Don't listen to that advice.



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A Career Woman (Female, Houston, 36-45) answered:

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Pills will be effective within about 3 days. No other form is needed usually. You could opt for Norplant or cariations of this contraceptive, but there are side effects that are untimely and inconvenient, as well as in some cases painful.
I think yhou should discuss everything with your fiance, to a certain degree..if you and he are going to spend the rest of your lives together, now is defintely the time to establish good and open communication about all areas of your lives together.
Condoms are usually about 87% effective, but as long as there is no fear of infidelity, not necessary as an added precaution, in a monogamous relationship.
I would think that he would care to speak with you in depth about these things.

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A Career Woman (Female, Norfolk, 36-45, Financial / Banking) answered:

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Congratulations on your impending marriage and your virginal status!
I think it takes two wks before pills become effective, but you can confirm that by doing a little research online. Birth control alone should be sufficient, assuming herpes is not an issue.
Two more things:
Ask your fiance if he prefers a certain method of BC.
Don't limit yourself to pills. There are many new and interesting products available--patches and nuvaring. Your doctor would be a good place to get info.
Good luck!

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A Cool Mom (Female, 29-35, Fitness) answered:

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you really should give the pill 3 full months to reach maximum efficiency, although only 1 full month is needed. different women prefer different pills, so ask your dr, and they'll go through a list of pro's and con's for each type.

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A Sportif (Female, Dallas, 46-55, Who Cares?) answered:

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I started the Pill about 3 months before my wedding. I think it takes a month to "kick in" but I also wanted my weight and skin to be okay for the wedding day...just in case there were problems

I was on Ortho Novum for about 17 years....it worked fine...only got pregnant the 2 times we tried to

I also applaud you for waiting

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A Sportif (Female, Vancouver, 36-45, Medical / Dental) answered:

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You need to be on your pills for one full cycle to be extra sure. So...start taking them about 6 weeks before your wedding. If you start taking them 30 days before..it's quite possible you'll have your period on your wedding day. The birth control pill alone IS enough as long as you're taking them every day around the same time, and you're not on any other meds (like antibiotics) that will affect how well they work. Honestly..if you trust that hubby is disease free and faithful condoms are not necessary.

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