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Christmas exchange...
Christmas exchange... / Dating / 2:17 PM - Friday December 16, 2005
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A Thinker (Female, Dallas, 29-35, Who Cares?) asked:


Last night when I asked my bf what he wanted for Christmas he told me not to get him anything. Of course I told him he forgot who he was dating...LOL. Anyways he went on to say how we will just go shopping after Christmas because he knows anything he gets me will be the wrong thing...WTF. OK I didn't think I was that difficult to shop for.

In any case, I think the real reason is he doesn't have the time to go get me a present due to his work schedule. Also, he might have to ask mom for his allowance...long story, but mom is in charge of his money. OK don't bash me here I know he is 26!!! Anyways, with this said men tell me the truth knowing that I am a big gift giver would you still expect a gift from me at Christmas even though you requested me not to get you anything?

Also, do I tell him how he has taken the fun out of my Christmas by not allowing me to get him something special for Christmas? OK I will be disappointed if I don't get a gift from him on Christmas, but I can live with shopping afterwards with him. I just can't see me not doing something for him. Thoughts here!


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A Thinker (Female, Baltimore, 46-55, Administrative) answered:

Screenname: jpm51


Unlike most people, I never ask anyone what kind of gift they would like for Christmas or birthday or any other gift giving time. Its just my way. I get them something along the lines of their interest that I know they would possibly enjoy. I think back to things that they have talked about (could be a book), things they have maybe looked at while with them somewhere in a store, stuff like that.

Don't tell him that he has taken the fun out of Christmas, that is being unnecessarily sarcastic and there is no reason for that unless you want to start the New Year with just having being involved in an argument because of a remark made.

Oh, if his Mom controls his $$$$ now at age 26, don't think of getting married to this guy anytime soon if you know what I mean

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A Career Man (Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: chusett


lol ok.. as you wish i will not branch off into this 26 year old asking for allowance . In answer to your question, simple and short, if we men tell u not to buy us anything... we mean it. We are not females. We do not say it to test u. We do not say it to get pist when a present isnt nice and wrapped for us on the 25th. We dont play mind games like women do. Chances are your man doesnt want you to get him a gift. Ive done this numerous times too. As far as my suggestion to you, i would say dont get him a gift. But it can still be fun for you, be creative in thinking what you can give/do to him, but not spend money BUYING him anything. Hint hint.


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A Mr. Nice Guy (Male, Cleveland, 36-45, Executive) answered:

Screenname: hubbyochris


Kristin,

I'm glad the two of yous are getting along better.

Suggest to him that you two celebrate Russian Christmas (or Orthodox Christmas), which is 12 days after December 25 (i.e., the 12 days of Christmas). You realize his work schedule is nuts and the most important thing is that the two of you get to spend some time together, who cares what the date is.

Suggest you get each other $100 (or whatever) mall gift certificates and you go together. He picks out what he buys, but you have veto power over it.

The boys got issues, so help him learn what you like and how he really can buy you stuff you'll like.

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A Rebel (Male, Los Angeles, 29-35, Self-Employed) answered:

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1. Don't be stupid and not get him a gift. Duh!
2. If you don't get a gift from him, because he hasn't gotten his allowance from his mommy yet, then it is your own fault. You should have thought about that when you decided to go rob the cradle. lol

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A Career Woman (Female, 29-35, Who Cares?) answered:

Screenname: 2sexy2sweet


With this new information, I cannot prevent myself from saying that I do not know what you're doing with being with this guy... That said, get him a gift. It's the season of giving and these pre-arranged agreements take the joy out of it all.

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