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Married Life / 12:53 PM - Friday May 19, 2006

Controlling?

My ex-wife had two kids from a prior marriage. When we were married, she used to watch the Lifetime channel. When she would watch it, she would yell and scream at us if we tried to talk to her and be over dramatic for the next couple of days, which made our home unstable. I told her she needed to stop watching that channel and we got in fights whenever she did. Would you consider that to be controlling behavior on my part?

- Asked by Male, 29-35

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I'd consider that psychotic behavior on her part. Plus obsessive.



- Response by drevil77m, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 29-35, Calgary, Technical

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Yeah. I mean you are trying to control what she watches on TV.

Perhaps a better approach is to talk to her and find out why she's being dramatic. A TV show is a TV show, but our issues can be magnified by some of them. Find out what they are and seek professional help.

- Response by curadvent, A Father Figure, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?

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The Lifetime channel is EVIL. It's a proven fact that Oprah sold her sole to the Devil, and the arrangement made between two such evil forces created a rift in the universe, out of which the Lifetime channel came.
While I don't believe in telling other people what they need to do, I also don't believe in relationships with women that get into the Lifetime channel. Just don't marry a woman like that again.

- Response by rooster1eye, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 26-28, Las Vegas, Executive

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no that is not controlling - maybe she doesn't know what she is doing...

try video-taping her and her kids interactiosn while she is watching that channel and show it to her when she has calmed down...

also, a last resort might be to cancel cable for awhile...

- Response by azgoddess, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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No!!!

The Lifetime channel (though I like to watch it) is EVIL!!

It makes perfectly rational man-loving women into man-hating feminazis! Those movies are the DEVIL!


- Response by oblivia, A Career Woman, Female, Who Cares?, San Diego, Other Profession

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That's bizarre. I watch the Lifetime Channel too and don't get all crazy like that.

No, I don't think it was controlling..per se. I think you could have handled it a little differently though. Like maybe, you could have explained to her what was bothering you and asked her if she could control her temper when watching the show...cause I really don't think it's the show that was the problem. The problem seemed to be relating to her anger management issues. You associate it with Lifetime because that's when she would lose the ability to control her anger.

Anyway, she's an ex now so atleast you don't have to deal with it but I feel bad for her kids. She really needs to attend anger management classes in my opinion.

- Response by sillygirl1980, An Engaged Girl, Female, 29-35, Los Angeles, Administrative

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I have noticed that a lot (not all, but a lot) of the drama's on Lifetime cast a man in the role of the bad guy and the women in the role of a victim. If your woman tends to view herself as a victim, then watching an excessive amount of Lifetime TV could amplify those feelings, and cause her to project any negative feelings of men in general onto you.

- Response by mrmusic, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 56-65, Los Angeles, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I must ammend my earlier comment.

Everyone is trying to discuss this rationally

RATIONAL WOMEN DO NOT WATCH LIFETIME!!!! :)

- Response by mrmusic, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 56-65, Los Angeles, Artist / Musician / Writer

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